How Andre focused on real connection again

The beginning

For me, wanting to quit porn wasn't a dramatic moment. I started feeling like it wasn’t a good use of my time.

I never really tracked how much porn I watched because it wasn’t something that dominated my day, but it became a coping mechanism. I saw a pattern. It was more of an occasional habit that I didn’t think much about.

Over time, I started asking myself whether it was actually adding anything positive to my life or if I was just doing it out of convenience or running from something deeper.

I wanted to make more conscious choices. For me, making conscious choices means taking a step back before acting on impulse. It means asking myself whether something aligns with the kind of person I want to be, whether that’s as a father, a creator, or in my relationships. I want my time and energy to go toward things that help me grow rather than just filling a moment.

"I was raised around addiction, and I’ve seen firsthand what it can do to make choices without intentions, and I want to break that cycle with any unhealthy habit forming in my life. Being newly single, there are definitely moments where loneliness or stress can make it easy to fall back on habits that offer instant gratification."

I realized those moments where I turned to porn weren’t really about porn. They were about what I was feeling underneath.

Finding Mojo

Going through the Mojo program helped me slow down and recognize those triggers instead of automatically acting on them.

“Mojo gave me a better understanding of why those urges came up and reminded me that I’d rather invest my time and energy into things that genuinely move my life forward, whether that’s my kids, my work, staying active, or building meaningful relationships.”

What I appreciated about Mojo was a more balanced approach that encourages understanding your habits instead of judging yourself. A lot of quit porn advice I’ve seen focus on strict rules or treating everyone like they have the same experience. I think lasting change comes from self-awareness and making intentional choices, not from guilt. There’s ways to approach situations like this, and I think creating a safe environment and targeting the root instead of the action is much more effective.

Where things are now

Like any habit, it takes awareness to recognize when you’re acting on autopilot. I was raised around addictive personalities so it became my mission. Once I became more intentional with how I spent my time and attention, it felt easier to make choices that aligned with what I actually wanted.

“For me, this wasn’t about resisting some overwhelming urge. The harder part was changing a behavior that had become automatic at times.”

I’m also an author and have written books, including one focused on personal growth, and I’m working on children’s books inspired by my daughters.

Outside of that, I’m constantly creating videos, writing, and finding ways to encourage people through storytelling. Spending my time creating leaves me feeling much more fulfilled than mindlessly consuming. I also plan to reopen a Speakeasy Lounge that showcases local talent (poets, singers, lyricists, artists, etc.) where people can vibe, hear live music and performances in a smooth, relaxed environment.

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Broader reflections

I’d recommend Mojo to any man who wants to stop mindlessly watching porn. You don't have to have a major problem to benefit from understanding yourself more.

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This is one member's personal experience. Individual results vary, and this story is not medical advice. Always consult a qualified healthcare professional about persistent concerns.